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Message started by angiebaby on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:22am

Title: need some help please
Post by angiebaby on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:22am

I am so sorry for what i am about to wright but i need some help and reassurance please fast.
My dad has just collapsed and died on me. I did CPR and mouth to mouth but i couldn't get him back and my ectopics are big, bad and constant. I know it will be the stress but i am still scared and of course overaught by all of this. I am trying to hold it together but i am really struggling here. I just cannot believe it, it was so quick and i know at least he didn't suffer at the end, he just went within a couple of seconds. I can't stop shaking and my pulse is up of course, but these ectopics are scaring me, i don't want to die and leave my children.

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by beadbabe on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:29am

oh angie, love, I am so sorry - has this just happened today?
I am glad I have just logged on to see if I can say anything that can help. I am so sorry to hear your news
Of course you will be overwhelmed and in shock too. You will be having so much to deal with. this must have been horrifying for you.
Are you at home on your own with the kids.
You are not going to die for a long time most likely, so please don't think this.

Big hug from bead

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by angiebaby on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:37am

Happened at 5pm. I did try, but he had gone so quick. Don't know how i am going to cope with this when i couldn't even deal with life as it was.

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by beadbabe on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:50am

Oh, of course you tried. No-one would have been able to do any more, I am sure. I have sent you a personal message if you prefer to answer that way?
I am so sorry and you will cope. You really will. It is an awful thing to face up to death of our parents, especially in the way you were forced to.
Any support I can give to you, I will. Just say if there is anything any of us can help you with even if it is just talking virtually, like we do.
You said you were shaking - that is adrenaline from the shock of it all, and also that is what is making your ectopics really bad. It is not surprising.
Take care of yourself and your children - in fact throw yourself into enjoying every minute you have with them. That is what I try to do and it does help. Enjoy every little smile and chuckle they have and enjoy cuddles with them if you can catch them for long enough ;)
bead

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by angiebaby on Sep 12^th, 2007, 11:59am

Thanks for the reply bead. Not coping very well at all really. Just started to break down now. I will ring my counsellor tomorrow, but i know that there isn't anything anyone can do. I just cannot believe it has happened.

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by saab on Sep 13^th, 2007, 3:55am

So very sorry to hear this. You are in a terrible state of shock at the moment. My mother died suddenly of heart problems (14 years ago now) and it was a very difficult time - it takes a long time to come to terms with. However bad you are feeling, remember it is emotional trauma that is causing the physical feelings (understandably), and you are not in any danger.

Things do get better - I felt better after the funeral, you can then start to grieve properly. We are all thinking about you and send you our best wishes.

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by seffie on Sep 14^th, 2007, 2:23am

Hi Angie,
so sorry to hear about your dad. It's hard enough losing a parent but to have him die in front of you like that must have been very traumatic. It's no wonder you're having lots of palpitations, maybe you could see your doctor to get something to calm your system down a little-not sure if you're already on meds or not.
I was with my mum when she died although it wasn't unexpected like your dad. Even with knowing what was going to happen it was very traumatic & took me a long time to come to terms with it, I kept going over & over it in my mind so don't be surprised if you find yourself constantly going over what happened. That will stop in time.
My palpitations were also very bad at this time but I just accepted it was due to what was happening.
Thinking of you Angie & hope you find some comfort from friends & family.
Take care
love Seffie xx

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by billycat on Sep 14^th, 2007, 11:06am

So so sorry to hear your news Angie. You must feel like your world is crashing down around you. What an incredibly brave thing you did for your dad -I'm sure he is amazingly proud of you, wherever he is now.

I'm sure as the others have said, that your body is just having an unpleasant - but completely normal - reaction to the shock and trauma of the whole situation which you may have to ride out for a while. Let your body and emotions do what they feel like doing for a while. Time will lessen the pain (both physical and emotional).

My heart truly goes out to you...

Sincere condolances
billycat xx

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by RLR on Sep 17^th, 2007, 9:57am

My sympathy to you and your family at such a difficult time. It does sound as though you did everything possible at a time when most people simply can't respond due to being emotionally overwhelmed and that's quite an achievement. Your strength will be the tie that binds you to making through and beyond.

Best regards and Good Health

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by angiebaby on Sep 18^th, 2007, 5:28am

Thankyou RLR for your kind words, i am really struggling right now, it is very hard to cope with.

Title: Re: need some help please
Post by Kathryn on Sep 21^st, 2007, 9:18am

Hi

I'm so sorry, you were so brave not many people would have been able to give CPR and reacted that quick. I can't imagine what you have been through.

You must be prepared to experience the ectopics and panic attacks, also if you haven't already you may experience shock. But you'll be ok, you must grieve holding it in will make you feel worse in the long run.

I hope the pain of this eases in time.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Kath x