Hi

I feel really fed up, i'm sitting here crying, Past week my tummy down below has been really sore, it sometime hurts to wee or the other, I know I've recently ovulated.  My IBS is playing up I'm sure of it, every morning at about 6am I get tummy ache and have to go toilet, though I do not have dioriah (however you spell it) .  It all started without going into to much detail when me and my hubby got a bit fruity one morning and after my belly hurt like a really bad period pain, I've had this before, and it's all stemed from there.  The pain I get is in 2 places where I'd assume my ovarys are.

My OCD is really bad, I don't know what to do, I put a top on in the morning, then I get this thought you'll die if you where that, then I have to change it, I try to fight it but can't, please help, I'm so fed up with this, I have to check things over and over, it's driving me crazy, I'm convinced my hearts going to go out of sinc, like now I'm crying and my chest feels funny.  I've been waking up anxious, and this morning I woke feeling really off balance, it was horrible.

I know I have anxiety and I'm working on that, but I know there are other factors like my menstral cycle and IBS that also contribute to my symptoms, so how can I overcome that to.

Sorry just having a bad few days, I'm just so sick of it all.

Kath x

Kathryn,

It's important for you to work on understanding why the mind must engage in compulsory activities in order to try and reduce anxiety. Your work with your therapist should include work in this area as well, so that you can begin to defend yourself from allowing patterns like this to persist.

Basically, you're going to have to realize that you have greater control over some things, and less control over others and nothing you do by ritual can change or alter that fact in any manner whatsoever. You are obsessed with fears so overwhelming that you must practice compulsory activities as a means to rationalize your thoughts, reduce anxiety and create a false sense of security. You need to realize and accept that the obsessions are entirely irrational and have no basis in fact. Therefore, the outcome of such fears is entirely irrational as well. You can wear any clothing you choose, refrain from counting and any other activity and life for that day will exist no differently than the one before it, or yet to come. That's a fact.

You'll be fine. The symptoms are nothing to be concerned about in this case.

Best regards and Good Health

Sorry to hear you are having such a difficult day. I'm having an anxious day too (due to not enough sleep), but I know these feelings will pass - yours will too, I'm sure, we just have to let it wash over us and know that these feelings don't mean anything. Best wishes.

Thanks for your posts, it always helps to get supportive messages, I really appreciate it.  

Hope you all have better days tomorrow, and I'll try to smile more.

Kath x

Thank you

I will take note of the manuka honey and give it a try, (don't like honey much) but if it helps my tummy.  Can I get it from the supermarket?

Thanks Kath x

Hi Kathryn

I am in England and you can buy Manuka, which is from New Zealand in  most supermarkets and health food stores, a bit expensive but start with a small jar first.

Take care.