Okay, well let's try to look at your issues one at a time.

In the presence of gum disease, and even without it, widening separation can sometimes develop beneath the gum line where the tissue meets the enamel of the teeth. This area can be aggrevated by eating candy, a hard piece of fruit or other food and cause a little hematoma to develop which can build up and force its way above the surface of the gum and into your mouth. The consequence is the sudden development of free blood inside your mouth. Most people make the mistake of rushing to the bathroom and rinsing with warm water, which just makes the site bleed more. Much like an old-fashioned nose-bleed, you have to pack it with tissue and take a break while the body's natural clotting factors take hold and stop the bleeding. Bleeding also commonly occurs from biting the tongue as a consequence of poorly aligned teeth. It's sometimes difficult to locate the actual site of bleeding in the mouth because saliva tends to spread it around. Nothing to worry about.

It is not uncommon in the least for persons to temporarily sense a hearing loss in one ear and this is typically caused by a disturbance to the nerve which innervates the ears. Some patients claim that they first notice a loss of hearing, following by a ringing sensation that soon dissipates and the symptoms abate altogether. It should also be of interest to you that many sufferers of anxiety complain of dizziness, loss of balance, tinnitus and other symptoms that can be associated with stimulation of the vestibular system responsible for helping maintain balance.

You have to realize that the human body does a great job of keeping us going day in and day out, but there should not be expections that it will perform flawlessly and without subtle changes on a day to day basis. When under stress, such as in the case you described, you have to realize that the body responds physiologically and can produce a broad range of symptoms, none of which represent disease of any kind.

Spouses of persons with anxiety can become quite frustrated indeed because their efforts to help are often thwarted as being useless or non-contributory to relieving the problem. The anxious spouse is oftentimes scared of what is happening and will be quick to hold boundless expectations in the presence of growing fear and panic.

You will have to realize that one of the most frustrating positions to be placed in is watching someone you care deeply about suffer while shutting out all attempts to be helped or guided. It doesn't take long at all for spouses to develop resentment over being placed in such a position and feel trapped that their efforts are truncated while also being condemned for backing away. The anxious person can do a great deal to alienate those around them in times of difficulty.

Care must be taken where this is concerned because sometimes boundaries are exceeded that can't be re-established at the same level after the fact. I think you see what I'm driving at here, so I'll stop and let you pause for consideration.

Incidentally, taking your blood pressure in response to a change sensed in your hearing bears absolutely no association or relevance and you can take it all you care to, but they're not related. A blood pressure of 112/54 is entirely normal and you are going to have to realize that blood pressure is a very dynamic process. You're not going to see textbook readings everytime you plug yourself in. It's just not how it works at all.

One of the dangers inherent in anxious people is that they tend to make unwarranted and innacurate associations between events. It is therefore, no surprise when they see a strange result based on these erroneous relationships and it causes panic. At some point, you're going to have to pause and consider whether your thinking patterns about all that's happening are flawed and innacurate. You have established a belief system that holds very narrow expectations for the manner in which your body should respond and perform on a daily basis and any deviation sets in motion unregulated fears that something is wrong because it doesn't match your set of beliefs.

When you're able to reflect upon the notion that it may be your perceptions that are causing the anxiety, then you'll be well on your way to a far better understanding of what is taking place.

Best regards and Good Health



 

Hi Angie,
really sorry that you're having a rough few days! I think RLR & Bead have pretty much covered everything re: reassuring you but I just wanted to add that I understand a lot of what you're going through especially about the way you respond to physical signs & symptoms.

Funnily enough on Monday evening I was just sitting with my son at the table & I suddenly tasted blood in my mouth, I spat on to a tissue & there was blood. Now it wasn't a huge amount & it stopped pretty quickly but I had no idea where it was coming from.

Now someone not suffering from HA would probably just have thought 'oh, that's strange, wonder what's caused that' & then forget about it, but because I do suffer from HA I just went straight in to panic mode-I had a huge surge of adrenaline which then made me go hot, shaky & my heart started racing & banging in my chest. I don't need to tell you what I was thinking, I'm sure you can imagine.

After a while I kind of got a hold on myself & talked myself down & started to think more logically. I'd got over a cold the week before & had had bleeding when blowing my nose most days so I figured that I had a slightly weak vessel at the back of my nose that had just started bleeding again but had gone down my throat instead.

I don't know for sure that that was what happened but it's the most likely explanation & as I had no other symptoms I managed to reassure myself. However, like you, it left me feeling shaky & I know my anxiety has been raised for afew days since. I went shopping & was worried that the bleeding would start again while I was out.
In a way it was a good thing that I was alone because it forced me to reassure myself & calm myself down rather than get that from someone else.

I also know how you & Bead feel about your husbands attitude. I also feel like my husband is angry with me a lot of the time but he came with me to my therapy session the other week & it really helped although we still need to work hard at our relationship.
I also do the mind-reading stuff which drives my husband crazy!
RLR gave a good insight from the other side because I think it's hard on them too & I think we just want them to be supportive but I guess they feel under pressure & stressed by it all as well.

I wish I knew how to turn off that mad rush of adrenaline when something unusual happens so that I could react 'normally' but I guess it will take time for me to change my thinking patterns & the way I react to things, I know I'm getting there & you will too Angie. It can seem really hard sometimes to pick yourself up when you've had a bad experience but you just have to keep working at it because the alternative is to live in a permanent state of fear & anxiety.

In the meantime you need to take care & be kind to yourself.
I hope you have a lovely Easter-everyone else too-& hope you'll be feeling much better soon!
love Seffie xx

Hi Angie
just come onto the site and read about your experience with blood in your mouth - this bought back a memory to me, a few years ago I was in Marks and Spencers food department where my daughter worked at the time, it was a Saturday afternoon and my husband had dropped me off in town.  I tasted blood and  checked and there was blood on my tissue[quite a lot] - I was distraught, mainly because of the nerves I suffer from - I rang my husband on my mobile crying down the phone to him I was petrified.  My daughter saw me and I was literally propping myself up on one  of the shelves - she was so upset and took me to the ladies and  she kept saying it will be your gum bleeding and it was but for a moment I thought the very very worst - I can totally  sympathise with the way you felt.   I am not completely rid of all of my nerves and certainly not of the palpitations but realised after a while that my frame of mind about worrying about myself was causing me to react in this way. On the odd occasion can taste blood in my mouth and there is nothing there and it sets of a scare inside me - we are so sensitized to these things happening - please stay and calm and dont worry about this and remember your not on your own.