RLR wrote on Sep 2nd, 2010, 2:52pm:Okay, excellent interpretations being made here and this is precisely the kind of logic and analytical thinking all of you need to utilize, for it will carry you to the place you need to be in order to realize where you have taken the fork in the road to your present status.
You've now begun to leave the irrational planes associated with physical causes for your difficulties and headed toward the introspective realm where at some point, you'll be able to identify, evaluate and alter the underlying cause for the problems which have ultimately led you to an altered life.
Excellent.
Best regards and Good Health
From RLR's above post I would say yes Jason, introspection is the key as well. But what is everyone's understanding of that.
this is what it has come to mean to me:
Many years ago, a friend of mine married and moved to the US with her American husband. It turned out that her husband was an alcoholic, so she came back to England with there baby girl. He followed some months later. He was in fact a lovely person, but when he drank, he was nasty and even violent at times.
They had no home and were staying with relatives and so the housing people rehoused them at the top of a tower block. My friend became completely obsessed that they would be trapped up there in a fire. She could not sleep and I remember her talking about her heart doing strange things and it was so bad, she would hang on to the wall in the street for fear of dropping (funny how we forget that we have heard of this before). She was prescribed diazepam and took it for a few years but still was worried about the block catching fire.
Eventually they were able to buy a house and she felt better, withdrew from the diazepam. Now she had a new obsession and feared something bad would happen to her kids. Again she was so scared she could not sleep and felt dizzy all the time.
Without writing a book, she would take diazepam for a while, come off it but each time her fears would skip from one thing to another.
Then one day, someone helped her to discover the REAL reason for her fears...someone helped her admit that she was deeply unhappy with her man. He was drinking, hiding bottles and had become impotent. She had felt she had managed all of this well, and that the obsessions were the problem for her anxiety.
Once she admitted this to herself, the anxiety went. Just like the other lady I told you about. My friend would say she is always a little nervy but these obsessions disappeared over night. She divorced the guy and after all the hustle was over, she was the happiest I'd seen her in years. No more anxiety.
What I mean is, by introspection we may find personal truths. That is, we may find that there are things we need to change and things that as yet have gone unsaid, or unthought - perhaps because they are too big or too overwhelming to tackle.
I am not proposing everyone has something hidden like my friend. But who knows if the inability to leave a job, change careers, leave a spouse or at least acknowledge the problems, recognise one's unhappiness somewhere, or just generally change the way we do things, is not the key?