Hi Jo / George,
I’m not RLR, but I’d like to comment on your posts as we are on this journey together and I think commenting on each others posts might, just might, help us all along, even if by accident. Hope so.
Hi Jo,
I agree with you that people can be afraid to leave the safety of the familiarity of what they know – anxiety for us usually, or is it now just a habit to have our anxiety threshold ticking over so high that it now seems the norm?
And for sure focusing in on it with negativity does certainly make it much worse. I guess working where you do exposes you to your fears frequently.
But other people have a similar job and don’t experience the same problems, so there is something else going on too I guess – as you know.
I bet most people see many of us on this forum as quite confident, apparently people think that of me too – but it’s really an act, I’d feel ashamed if people knew how I really felt inside, so I guess we hide that from them? we are ashamed to show our true feelings as they seem weak.
We are not the person that we want to be at the moment are we. Perhaps that goes for ALL o fus with these issues?
What do you think?
Hi George,
I guess the negative thoughts seemed not to have a trigger at 1st because they have now become an instinctual habit? And you are or were avoiding exposure to your fears by turning away from the news and those hospital type programs, because they remind you very vividly of your own fears – as you said and I think this is a classic anxiety sign.
It’s kind of like buying a type of car that you have only seen once or twice before, then seeing that same type everywhere you drive now you are looking out for it. Before it was not on your radar, now it is. It’s the same with us now; our radar is set to consciously or subconsciously be on alert for things relating to our anxieties in any way.
As you know, the question is why do we get to that stage, when normal people don’t?
Do you have lots of spare time in your day to ruminate on your issues George? I know I have way too much time and it certainly doesn’t help at all. Are all of us on this forum using our mind space for the wrong thoughts?
Tyler spoke about mindfulness and you have done some of that right now by stopping to actually observe your thoughts, you have observed the fearful thought and found that actually you are NOT your fearful thought at all - do you get what I am saying? it's a weird thing when we take a step back and just observe what is going on in our own minds - so much of it is habit and negativity, which is why I think we feel out of control...
and I think that is a big issue with most of us here, the fear of being out of control of our lives, out of control of our own bodies, but in reality we only have control of our minds in this very moment - ok that's too deep for me! I'm out of here!